Tag: Emotional Support

ARE YOU IN “YOUR SEASON OF DISCONTENT”?

By Pamela Madsen, The Fertility Advocate, Guest Blogger I was so sad to hear about Maya Angelou’s passing. She was one of the strongest, most insightful women of my generation. And she once said something that has stuck with me ever since. “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change […]

TRANSITIONING FROM YOUR FERTILITY SPECIALIST TO YOUR OB/GYN

First you realize that you are having trouble getting pregnant. This creates anxiety. Then, your doctor suggests that you see a reproductive endocrinologist (RE, a.k.a. fertility specialist). While you are likely approaching this visit with hope, there is anxiety that the treatment will not be successful, anxiety of seeing a new doctor, anxiety about the […]

LOVING THE SOMEDAY DAD ON FATHER’S DAY

Men often get lost in fertility treatment. Unless there is a male factor issue, all of the attention is on their partner. They have several big performances to make to supply the other 50% of the baby, but beyond that – not too many people are asking “The Guy” how he’s doing. So often men are left […]

LOVE AND INFERTILITY – ARE YOU LOSING THAT LOVING FEELING?

One of the most common things that I hear from women who are going through infertility is that they feel like they have completely lost touch with their own bodies. It’s complicated. So many of us feel broken during infertility and, let’s face it– one part of us that feels broken is connected to our sexuality. It’s […]

WHY I SKIPPED WRITING ABOUT MOTHER’S DAY

I know that this may be like saying that I don’t like the American Flag and Apple Pie (which I do!!!) but I have to be raw and vulnerable with you. I am coming out. I hate “Mother’s Day”. It’s just not a comfortable holiday for me.  And I am not alone.  It’s so  loaded […]

INFERTILITY IS LIKE THE WEATHER

One of my favorite quotes of all time, by Pema Chodron, is this: “You are the sky; everything else—it’s just the weather.” It is easy to apply this thinking to infertility. You are the sky; the rest is infertility! I love this quote in the context of infertility because it embodies the notion that we […]

MAKING IT SAFE FOR MEN TO TALK ABOUT MALE INFERTILITY

We like to think of ourselves as enlightened, capable of intelligent discussion and rational action. Few things put those admirable qualities to the test as fast as male infertility. Mention male factor at a party and reflexively, most men blanch, squeeze their knees together and change the subject, even if they’re not affected. Not that things […]

INFERTILITY SUPPORT – SOMETIMES BUBBLE WRAP IS REQUIRED

I am a strong, powerful, willful woman who has been called a “force of nature” by many. Yet there are times that if I were to imagine myself as a vase, packed into a box for shipping – I would need extra bubble wrap around me so I wouldn’t break. I would need the card […]

Every IVF Cycle is a Kind of Prayer

Every IVF cycle is a kind of prayer. We are seeking with everything we have: our bodies, our money, our time, and our faith for a single desire. The desire to have a family. Whether or not you follow a religion, faith is a natural human emotion, It is the by-product of two inescapable facts […]

You Are Not Alone – Infertility Support

Even for our advanced species, reproduction is a biological imperative. For most of us, we need to have children and build families. It is hard-wired into our DNA. Since the beginning of recorded time, men and women have been yearning for pregnancy, babies, and families. I have always found it comforting to know that I am never […]